Since we can't get along in life without associating with others, learn to be popular and have fun doing it.
There are three magic words you can use to make your personality a winning one:
To start building these traits into your personality get yourself some cardboard and cut it into 12 one by two inch pieces. Write down the words kindness, friendliness and cheerfulness on each of the cards.
Put one in your pocket or purse, one on your car dash, one on your bathroom mirror and spread the rest around where you will see them.
All great people have some form of reminders. We need more to be reminded than informed.
Start practicing kindness, friendliness and cheerfulness daily. When you meet someone today find a way to compliment them.
Mark Twain said: "I can live two months on a good compliment."
When you meet a stranger think good thoughts about them.
Emerson said: "What you are speaks so loudly that I can't hear what you say." People will respond to your thoughts.
Increase your "Thank you habit." Say thank you whenever you can.
In your conversations try not to use the words I or me or mine or my. It is difficult but try.
Spend 15 minutes at night before going to bed and review the mistakes and foul-ups you made in dealing with others. Think of a way to avoid them tomorrow.
Start a 'Happiness Book.' Every day write down in a book some pleasant happening. Do it before going to sleep.
Listen to people intently. Be surprised at what they tell you. Don't interrupt and say "I know that." Or add to it. Let them think they are telling you something you do not know and can use. Say, "Is that right?" or " You must be kidding." or "I didn't know that, thank you." What was that?" Don't be a 'know it all', even if you do know it all. It turns people off and makes them angry.
Try to smile more. "Act like your cheerful and you quickly feel cheerful"
Don't try to learn or practice your new personality traits all at once. One at a time.
Franklin had a good method. He wanted to develop 13 traits. He failed for 10 years when he tried to develop them all at once. When he switched to one trait at a time method, he had all 13 in 2 years. He said, "Without this method, I wouldn't have had any great achievements.
Listen to what was said about men with great personalities. It could happen to you.
"He couldn't even talk to a tramp begging for food, without making the tramp feel that he was once a celebrity, who misfortune bought down to this lowly state." Said about Goethe.
"He is a true friend. He knows all about my faults but respects and loves me just the same." Said about Teddy Roosevelt.
Henry Ford was interviewed a few months before he died. He was reminded of all he had achieved, money, fame, power, genius etc. He was asked is there anything he wanted and he did not have?
Ford answered, "If I had it to do over again, I'd go looking for friends. I'd gladly give up all I have of money and fame for a few intimate cronies. Friendship is the best thing a man can have in his life.
Practice your personality traits, kindness, friendliness and cheerfulness. Action alone develops power, changes things and changes us. Act now.
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